Friday, 23 January 2015

The Curse of the Upper Lip Tie



When Little Miss was born 3 years ago, she refused to take my breast for the first 24 hours, and was fed my colostrum through a syringe. It was a pretty worrying time for me, wondering if she’d ever be able to breastfeed. After a day she seemed to get the hang of it and would latch on, but really, our first few weeks of breastfeeding were pretty awful. She’d scream and turn her head away whenever I offered the breast, and it would take a lot of persistence on my part to actually get her attached. Once on, she fed pretty well, so we (me, Mr McD and all the Dr’s and nurses we saw in those first weeks) all put it down to her being born 3 weeks early, and still a little immature. After the first 2 weeks or so we found our groove and things got much easier; we ended up having a wonderful breastfeeding relationship until she self-weaned at 16 months (by which time I was 4 months pregnant with the Stuntman).

When the Stuntman came along, I was prepared for a similar initial breast refusal, but in fact he wriggled and maneuvered his way up my chest like a newly hatched baby turtle, and attached himself to my boob less than 5 minutes after he came out. It was the most beautiful moment, and I remember crying and exclaiming “he’s doing it, he’s doing it!!” to Mr McD and my mum in the birthing suite, so excited was I that it seemed that he had this breastfeeding business under control.
The Stuntman, 1 day old
A few hours and several feeds later, I noticed my nipples were shaped like lipsticks with a weird line down the centre. It didn’t hurt though, so I wasn’t too concerned about it. I got the hospital’s Lactation Consultant to assess our latch, as well as a couple of midwives, and they all said it looked fine, and that if it didn’t hurt, I shouldn’t worry. The Stuntman was checked over by the hospital Paediatrician, given the all clear, and we were sent on our way home after one night’s stay.

The next few days and nights turned into a blur of excruciating nipple pain, endless puddles of vomit, and some serious sleep deprivation. The Stuntman was wanting to feed every 1.5 hours round the clock, and then vomiting most of it up before falling asleep for less than an hour, then repeating the whole cycle again. My nipples were cracked and bleeding and the poor little Stuntman just wasn't happy. It’s safe to say I was not having a very good time, and I’m pretty sure it was only my Placenta capsules that kept me from going over the edge.

I’d been seeing a lovely lady, Jo, throughout my pregnancy for some wonderful reflexology and massage (to deal with SPD), and she offered me a post-natal treatment as well, to get things back in alignment and re-balance my hormones. To my great fortune, she was also a very experienced counsellor with the Australian Breastfeeding Association, and offered to have a look at what was going on for us. After 2 minutes of watching the Stuntman feeding, she did a quick check and told me that she thought he had an upper lip tie, and potentially a tongue tie as well. The Stuntman at this point was about 10 days old, and had been assessed by 2 different paediatricians, my GP, several midwives at the hospital, the home visiting midwife, and a nurse at the Early Childhood clinic. No one had even mentioned a lip or tongue tie, and all had just told me to ‘work on our latch’ to improve the situation. As a second time mum, it was just assumed that I knew what I was doing and could work it out.

Within an hour of seeing Jo, I had an appointment for the Stuntman with a wonderful husband and wife team in Sydney who specialise in lip and tongue ties in babies. The Stuntman was diagnosed as having a Class IV upper lip tie as well as a posterior tongue tie. An upper lip tie is where the piece of skin under a baby’s top lip (‘maxillary labial frenulum’) is attached too tightly to the gum, and looks like this:
A Class IV upper lip tie. Photo courtesy of Dr Lawrence Kotlow
A Class IV upper lip tie means that the labial frenulum extends down between where the two front teeth will come in, and wraps around and attaches to the hard palette underneath.

We had both ties snipped then and there. It was a quick procedure performed by a surgeon (the Lactation Consultant’s husband), and, while I can’t say it was painless for the Stuntman, I think the worst part of it for him was being tightly wrapped and held down on the table while it was happening. There was some blood and some screaming, but I think I was in worse shape than him!

As soon as the procedure was performed, I was encouraged to pop him straight on the breast. Apparently breast milk acts as an analgesic and can also stop bleeding. The difference I felt on that first post-snip feed was amazing; there was still some pain as my nipples were in really bad shape, but it was only ‘surface pain’, and not the excruciating agony I had been experiencing up until that point. He had the longest feed he’d ever had, and actually fell asleep on the boob – something he had never done before. The consultant explained that he’d had to work so hard to feed before the snip, that he’d probably never quite gotten to that milk drunk stage. 
Milk drunk, at last!
We had to do some lip-stretching exercises over the next few weeks to make sure that the frenulum didn’t heal back onto the gum line, but that was it. This simple procedure actually changed mine and the Stuntman’s lives; without it I really doubt I could have continued breastfeeding (and certainly not still be going strong 18 months later!).

If you have any suspicion or worry that your baby might have an upper lip or tongue tie, I urge you to go and see a qualified Lactation Consultant for an assessment. Early correction can make a huge difference.

Some of the signs that a baby may have a tongue or lip tie that is interfering with breastfeeding include:
  • nipple pain and damage
  • the nipple looks flattened after breastfeeding ('lipstick' shaped)
  • you can see a compression/stripe mark on the nipple at the end of a breastfeed
  • the baby keeps losing suction while feeding and sucks in air
  • the baby makes a clicking sound when feeding
  • the baby fails to gain weight
  • the baby cannot poke his tongue out beyond his gum or lips
  • his tongue cannot move sideways
  • the tip of his tongue may be notched or heart-shaped when he cries
  • he may readily gag
  • the tip of the tongue may look flat or square instead of pointed.
 (Source: Australian Breastfeeding Association)

I now realise that Little Miss also suffers from an upper lip tie, and that this was most likely the cause of our early breastfeeding issues. She also now has a small gap between her front teeth, and is unable to say the letters ‘f’ or ‘v’. She actually can’t move her top lip up off her front teeth enough to be able to touch her front teeth to her bottom lip (which is how you say ‘f’ and ‘v’). So it looks like we may have to get hers corrected too, but, at her age, the procedure is going to be much more of a big deal. A paediatric dentist will perform it, most likely using a laser to cut the frenulum. I’m somewhat reluctant to move forward with this, but I know I should do it sooner rather than later, or speech therapy might be required for her as well.

I wish I could say that this simple procedure put an end to all of our troubles, but unfortunately we then had to contend with milk over supply (due to the constant feeding), and a long road to discovering that his sleeplessness, fussiness and excessive vomiting was in fact due to a cow’s milk and soy protein intolerance (CMPI / MSPI) (Read my post How we came to be dairy and soy free for more background). 

Here are some great links for further reading about tongue and lip ties.

Dr Lawrence Kotlow is a world-renowned expert on lip and tongue ties (USA) and produced this Fact Sheet for new parents.

The Australian Breastfeeding Association has some great info on tongue and lip ties.

Personally, I’m almost convinced that there is some kind of link between a tongue and/or lip tie and CMPI / MSPI. So many mums of CMPI babies that I’ve spoken with have also discovered that their little one has a tie –too many to be a coincidence in my opinion! 

What about you - does your baby have CMPI and a lip/tongue tie? 
Leave a comment below!




29 comments:

  1. Gosh! I didn't know babies could have an upper lip tie! What a crazy time you had with stuntman when he was born! He is just the most adorable baby in that picture. I'm sad to read that your three year old daughter has to have treatment to fix her lip and wish for you that it had been picked up when she was little. We'll done mumma on being a great mum and listening to your instincts. :)

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    1. Thanks Rebecca

      Yes it was quite a full on start to his life!! Lucky he's so cute :)

      I think lots of people know about tongue ties now, but the lip tie is still a bit of a mystery.

      Thanks for stopping by :) x

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  2. Thank you for sharing this experience. So valuable for new parents to be aware of it as you realise from your daughter's experience it can affect speech development.

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    1. Thanks Cindy
      Yes I so wish that my daughter's tie was found early, I'm dreading getting it sorted now!

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  3. Oh the relief you must have felt at that first 'milk drunk' bliss post feed. I'm so glad you found out about Stuntman's lip ties, & sorry that it wasn't picked up with your first daughter.
    I think word is slowly getting out more about lip ties - what to look for & how they affect feeding & speech as they get older. We've had several friends who either looked into the possibility of their baby having a lip tie based on a suggestion following feeding difficulties.

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    1. I think it's the medical community that needs more education Hayley, we saw soooo many docs & nurses before it was finally picked up!

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    2. I think your exacting right. It's horrible that no one picked it up, or thought to check, much earlier when you were seeking help.

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  4. Two out of three of my boys have had a lower tongue tie and the best decision we made was to snip them. It made such a difference to my breastfeeding experience.

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    1. So glad it helped you guys. I wouldn't hesitate to get it done again if we had another bub.

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  5. Great story and I love the pics. What shocks me is you had so many people (qualified people) assess you guys and no one picked it up. And you were a second time mum. No wonder the journey into parenthood for sum causes major anxiety.

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    1. Yep, it was a very frustrating few weeks! I'm just glad I kept asking questions... if it had been my first baby I probably would've just given up and dealt with it on my own!

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  6. My guy has a tongue tie that was never fixed and it's caused us SO much trouble! Seriously debating whether to look at fixing it now, but he's old enough to be terrified by the prospect.

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    1. How old is your guy Amy? I'm going to have to get my 3 yr old's lip tie done, I'm dreading it!

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  7. Scarlett sometimes flattens my nipple and leaves a white line, but she does good long feeds (gets annoyed when my let down is fast). I can't see under her tongue but there's a slight join. I think I'll get my gp to look at it :/

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    1. It's always worth a look I think! Best of luck :)
      xx

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  8. I have never heard of this condition, how interesting. x

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    1. Hi Sarah
      It's amazing how many people haven't heard of it, considering it's not an uncommon condition! I think a lot of poor bubbas (and mummas) go undiagnosed so just have to stop breastfeeding and don't know why!

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  9. Poor Bub and Mumma. My son had a mild tongue tie but it didn't affect his Bfing thank goodness.

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    1. Glad to hear your son's breastfeeding wasn't affected. Also pleased that someone has picked up that he has a tie, even if it is mild!

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  10. Friends of mine had children with tongue tie, this is such a great post, it will help and reassure many. Thanks for linking up to #brilliantblogposts

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    1. Thanks Vicki, it still makes me so mad thinking about all those doctors we saw who brushed us off. I'm so glad I trusted my instinct to keep asking questions - and I'm very grateful to my lactation counsellor friend who pointed me in the right direction.

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  11. Gosh I bet that must have been just so hard! My 1st was a very fussy drinker but at 4 weeks was diagnosed with chronic reflux, it was horrific I struggled on breastfeeding, like 1 minute each side for an hour but she'd vomit acidic smelling milk, never slept and was a very unsettled baby. It wasn't until she could walk, about 1 year that life got better. I feel for you. Some great advice there for other mums!

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    1. Thanks Emily
      Oh, reflux is a bitch! The other days are tough in so many ways! x

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  12. Wow, I had no idea about this condition. This post may be helpful to so many new mums. It almost makes me wonder whether my first born ever had this, I didn't continue BF him after two months. He is 22 now so a little too late to tell.

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    1. You can still have a look if he has one! If he's got a gap between his two front teeth then that is often caused by a lip tie. I think it's a condition that is slowly gaining more recognition, but the medical community is still lagging behind in diagnosing it...

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  13. I've found this post really interesting. Thank you. When my first daughter breastfed she would take in a lot of air and would be quite colicky. We assumed this was because of her tongue tie which we discovered at birth.At the time the paed advised against snipping and my parents told me I was tongue tied as a baby, so we let it be. It stretched naturally at 6 months. With my second daughter it was like de ja vu. She also had a tongue tie and the paed advised against snipping. Feeding was incredibly painful, I got mastitis etc. It was just not fun. I put it down to the tongue tie. When she started smiling I noticed she had an upper lip tie. I didn't know what it was at the time of course. Even our local GP seemed freaked out about it. Back to the paed we went and he advised against snipping.Again! We really didn't know what the best thing to do was. I had finished feeding by this stage, but worried about her speech and her physical appearance too. She is now two. You can't see anything now unless she smiles a really really big smile. Plus, her speech seems fine apart from a few sssssssss sounds. I do worry whether or not we did the right thing taking our paeds advice and whether or not she'll hate us down the track for not snipping it when she was a babe. It was just a tough and confusing time. Anyway, thanks for sharing your story and sorry about the ramble.

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    1. Thanks Renee, and I'm so sorry you had such a run-around with your daughters! Hopefully all will be ok - if her speech is sounding OK then she's probably fine and it was the right decision to leave it...

      I'm really dreading the next steps with my 3 year old - I'll definitely write about it here once I work up the guts to make the appointment!!

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  14. If you decide to go through with the surgery for your three year old, please write about it or tell me how it goes if you don't mind. You can email me at mummywifeme@gmail.com Thank you :)

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